Signs To Show Your Relationship is Dying

Once upon a time, it was once rosy. You held hands as you walked on the sidewalk, you stole glances at each other, you never stopped calling or chatting each day and then all of a sudden... BANG!...the relationship is declared over; sometimes coming as a relief instead of sadness or pain to either party.

No relationship ends in a day. It could span weeks, months or even years before the final blow is dealt. Here are some telltale signs to show that your relationship is dying and in need of reviving.

Telltale Signs

1. Nothing much to talk about

Like Celine Dion would say in her song Super love .... "Then they finally wake up on day and realise there's nothing to say... It's hard to let go even when deep down you both know... so they fight and fight and fight... no more kissing kissing goodnight". When conversations become cold and routine, it is a clear sign that something is wrong in the relationship.

2. Not wanting to be together

When either party no longer craves for the other's presence or wants to be alone most of the time. Then it is a bad sign. Yes, work could take most of the time and deny partners room to be together but this is different in a dying relationship. There is this cold withdrawal, always seeking for reasons to be away. Late outings are blamed on work or meetings whereas it is usually intentional.

3. Fights and Quarrels

You fight over the smallest of things. Things you once ignored now become focal point. You also have frequent misunderstandings and either party is on the defensive when important issues are raised. All are telltale signs.

4. Sex becomes a bore

What used to be pleasurable is now seen as a burden. You ignore advances from your partner hooking up all kinds of excuses in the process like; I am tired, Is it all the time? I am not in the mood etc.

5. Turning down requests

There were certain things you used to do but now don't do them. For instance, you used to help out in the kitchen but you now bark out on such requests. Requests now turn to big deals.

6. Avoiding eye contact

This is a sign of guilt, fear, lack of confidence, which is not good in a relationship. Even when meeting a stranger or someone for the first time, there is eye contact. Its a terrible feeling to know you can't look into the eyes of your 'lover'.

7. Lacking Communication of every sort

No calls and when they do come, its cold. There is hardly any verbal communication but, instead, texts or written notes are used as means of communication.

8. No display of affection

That intimacy that used to be there is now lacking. Its like you are no longer proud of your partner. While sleeping, you back yourselves and even sleep on the edge of the bed.

9. Things you once tripped about in your partner now become irritating

The moment your partner becomes repulsive that is a red light.

10. When you don't care what your partner does

There was a time you were interested in your partner. You were interested in what your partner ate, how he/she fared at work, why the late outings but now you don't give a damn. If work was bad, you don't care to ask why; if he came late from work you don't care to know if he was held at gun point and if she spent five hours in the kitchen you are not interested in what she cooked.

11. Your partner seems not to attract you these days

Your eyes were once all over your partner but now he/she seems to be unattractive and repulsive. Funny enough you now find others more attractive.

12. Respect is lacking

Where there is no respect, anything goes. Insults and disgrace are bound to be poured out. There can't be two captains on a ship.

13. One party is sacrificing greatly for the other without reciprocation

A one-sided relationship is not a good one. The relationship ends when the sacrificing partner no longer intends to continue. It is like a person on oxygen support. The moment the plug is removed, the person dies.

14. Your goals are running in opposite directions

Nothing can be done when two people fail to agree. A relationship progresses when both parties have similar goals. This leads to friction, quarrels and fights as each tries to portray his/her aim or goal as the better one.

It is quite sad to see a relationship which was once a subject of envy, now become a gossip topic. We do not recommend breaking up just yet. Simply because you have seen some of these signs in your relationship does not mean your next relationship would be any better if you decide to break up now. Hence, there is need to go back to the drawing board and find out where things went wrong so that you can avoid a repeat should in case you decide to move on with your life.